Concerned Catholics

[GannonFan]

Did you have a Mass? Some priests won't do the Mass unless both are Catholic, and some parishes are even stingier and won't even let you have the service there (most will though). My boys have been altar serving weddings for the past two years (good income for little work) and I think the shortest they've done is about 25 minutes (no actual Mass). Haven't gone longer than an hour - those priests don't want to overdo it.

That campus in USD is gorgeous, must've been a good spot.

Mia7171 is a server. Her older sister and younger sister aren't. She gets volunteer hours. No pay is involved. It would be nice when she gets scheduled for 7:30am mass though. F that ****!

Kids only get paid for weddings and funerals - serving a regular mass is a non-paid gig.

[SunCoastBlueHen]

My 8th grader was asked to play the clarinet in a mini orchestra they put together to play the Holy Week Masses at one of our local churches. She thought the $200 they offered to pay her was a steal...

until she encountered the Saturday night Easter Vigil Mass. After that 2.5 hour marathon she was questioning the wisdom of taking the gig.

[CAA Flagship]

I got married in San Diego on the campus of USD. Beautiful church. Priest wasn't a dick, but he wasn't overly cordial either. Not sure if that is the way he is/was, or if it had to do with the fact that we were not parishioners or if it was because my wife is not Catholic, or both. I thought it would lead to a quick ceremony, but no. 1.5 hours +.

Did you have a Mass? Some priests won't do the Mass unless both are Catholic, and some parishes are even stingier and won't even let you have the service there (most will though). My boys have been altar serving weddings for the past two years (good income for little work) and I think the shortest they've done is about 25 minutes (no actual Mass). Haven't gone longer than an hour - those priests don't want to overdo it.

That campus in USD is gorgeous, must've been a good spot.

Yes, we had a Mass. We did all the Pre-Cana stuff.

Yeah, the place was pretty awesome.

[89Hen]

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[andy7171]

Did you have a Mass? Some priests won't do the Mass unless both are Catholic, and some parishes are even stingier and won't even let you have the service there (most will though). My boys have been altar serving weddings for the past two years (good income for little work) and I think the shortest they've done is about 25 minutes (no actual Mass). Haven't gone longer than an hour - those priests don't want to overdo it.

That campus in USD is gorgeous, must've been a good spot.

Yes, we had a Mass. We did all the Pre-Cana stuff.

Yeah, the place was pretty awesome.

Reminds me of this place...

[kalm]

FWIW, I didn't know 75% of the people at my wedding. They were mostly my in-laws friends. That said, all of my family and friends that came still say it was the best wedding to which they'd ever been. So it was for my in-laws, but it makes me feel good that so many of my friends and family had a great time.

I will also add that my future FIL offered me cash to elope.

My wife's extended family was/is much larger than my own, but we had seen a lot of them in the 2+ years we dated before we married. I wasn't close to a lot of them, but I knew all but a handful of the 150 or so people at the wedding. It was our wedding - we picked the church (my wife was attending a church in Old City Philly at the time so it was a great location), we picked the music and the musicians at the church, we picked the reception venue, we picked the food, we picked the cake, we picked the band, and so on. Like I said, I loved my wedding, I wouldn't have changed a thing (although it was on the pricey side, so now, many years later, I would like to have some of that money in the bank!).

To each their own and it’s nice that yours went well but don’t get me started on how big of a money suck they are. The average US wedding is something like $17,000 for clothes they’ll never wear again, mother in laws glaring at each other, father in laws measuring dicks, and food that will make a turd. People go into debt over weddings... I was a groomsman in one of my best friend’s weddings and it was really nice, great venue, fancy food, spared no expense, married his high school sweetheart, awesome pics, and was divorced two years later.