DADT is in place for the gays own protection in the military. Lifting DADT would create some serious problems with hate crimes etc... within the ranks. DADT does not prohibit gays from serving it just limits their personality (flaming) if you will. Having served and retired with more than 20 years I can tell stories both good and bad about the gays that I encountered in my career. I'll give one example of a good and a bad gay Army scenario I encountered.
Good: A woman I served with back in Germany was a lesbian and was a top notch Army officer. She had a few year on me when I met her through direct support maintenance at a depot in Nuremburg. Fast forward 27 years later; she is a Major General at the pentagon right now and still an ass kicking Army officer
Bad: Fort Campbell 5th Special Forces Group. One of our group leaders (male officer) one day was acting strangely. We just received a mission to deploy. His 1st such mission. All of the sudden he was openly gay and did not want to serve anymore. Acted out etc... flaming got kicked out. Fucked up the whole moral of the group
Escape goat for being a chicken shit and not wanting to deploy?? Really
Personally; I have a few gay friends/a family member on my wife's side who are a part of my life and I would not change them for the world. They are who they are and I love them the same. Actually, they are real stand up people who would not hurt anybody and I could count on them to have my best interests at heart.
These folks I've mentioned are for DADT and oppose Gay marriage.
With all that being said, I'm for keeping DADT and don't give a rat's ass about gay's getting married. If gay's want to fuck their selves with complicating a relationship with legal ramifications have at it. Last time I checked a power of attorney works for benefits just as well
All pedophiles must DIE and most are not gay